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Kay Stratton's avatar

Loooooove this, Elina. This jumped out straight away and punched me in the gut. How many times I’ve felt this. Ughhh.

“it’s easier to believe you missed a step than to face the truth that everyone heard you and simply shrugged.”

What I’m trying to do is lower my expectations (I should have none at all, but hey, I’m not that enlightened) because I expect from others what I give of myself.

A great reminder to us all that that constant sanding to accommodate others only harms us. ❤️

Elina Haverinen's avatar

Ahhhh, thank you ❤️❤️ I feel that so much, expectations hit hard. It’s a weird paradox: we want to be seen, but we try to achieve it by sanding ourselves down — so actually, no one can see who we are 🤪

Kay Stratton's avatar

Absolutely! Round off those edges, but for what? Let them get the edges, the splinters, all of it.

Elina Haverinen's avatar

Yes!! That’s what we do 😎

Sommer Schafer's avatar

"They nodded at the translation, but I know now, they were listening for their own reflection, and I have no say in what they choose to see in it." Well said and so true!

Elina Haverinen's avatar

Thank you so much, Sommer! 🧡

Taylor's avatar

Oh. My. God. I found myself gasping as I was reading. I too am done subtitling 🧡

Elina Haverinen's avatar

Oooh, so glad to hear it resonated. Yes – no more subtitling 🧡